Choose Compassion

Rik Midgley - Nonviolent Communication - North Wales

Nonviolent Communication (NVC), is an awareness process which uses language as a doorway to our hearts. It is our natural vulnerable consciousness, a map towards authentic living while feeling safe, confident and empowered to thrive. Its purpose is to take joy in compassionate giving, a journey to inner peace.

Growing in the consciousness of NVC nurtures the ability to hear and respond with compassion to both others and to our own thinking, and in such a way as to inspire a compassionate response. It is moving towards presence, enhancing awareness and the trust that our actions are in alignment with our deeply held values.


Developing NVC skills supports us to:

- Be empowered to express clearly and concisely what you want in challenging situations.

- Hear empathically even when perceiving attack, criticism or judgments.

- Express in a way that supports others to feel safe and trustful in you.

- Use conflict to create intimate connection through understanding.

- Find peace when you have feelings of anger, guilt, shame, fear or frustration.

Where is NVC from? Also known as Compassionate or Mindful Communication, NVC was developed by the international peacemaker and clinical psychologist Marshall Rosenberg following the pioneering work of Carl Rogers. The term 'nonviolence' honours Ghandi's work, while for me it speaks to the congruent sense of calmness I long to hold in my heart while I am in challenging situations.

The process of learning NVC is an empowering and liberating journey. It guides us to reframe how we express ourselves and hear others by focusing our consciousness upon what we value. As understanding grows, we free ourselves from our anxieties, enhancing awareness and capacity to be with others while staying in touch with our own deeply held beliefs. We find comfort in expressing ourselves with open honesty, and calmness in speaking with kindness and integrity. NVC helps us reach beneath the surface, to befriend ourselves, and nurture an authentic peace by recognising the common humanity in ourselves and others. It is an empowerment, a growing in confidence and self-esteem which promotes mutual connection and satisfying relationships. NVC is about compassion for self and compassion for others, an art of both listening to our own heart and of reaching to the hearts of others.



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